April has been one of my favourite months so far this year – probably because it’s one of the months where I have been the most successful when accomplishing my monthly goals. My goal for April was a simple one, but one I knew that would make me very happy. My goal this past month was to focus on my friendships.
When you’re younger, your friends are the people you see everyday at school or during afterschool activities. Sure, you can meet people in other places, but you mostly stick to this group. You may not have much in common other than that math teacher that you both dislike or that play in drama class you both were in, but these small things and daily occurrences somehow bond you together.
The weird part about friends is that, as adults, you have to try a lot harder when it comes to keeping them in your life. Now that you don’t have school as a bond, you start to move onto other things that you like. You may start taking language classes, have a full-time career, or really enjoy your alone time. The bonds you’ve formed with people you’ve always knew sometimes just dissipates. You don’t mean it to, but it happens.
Even though I may not still be super close with all of the people I used to call friends, I wanted to still focus on the people in my life that really mattered to me. After all, my friends really make me genuinely happy and I wanted to focus some time on them.
So, every day this month, I tried my best to fuel the relationships that I had with the people I enjoy having in my life. I made dates to just grab coffee and chat, we planned days full of activities where we could gather content together and I tried to be there for everyone that needed me. Even if a friend was far away or we didn’t hang out as often, a simple text went a long way to reach out to the people that I missed. As much as this may sound like a chore to some people, it genuinely made me feel so full of love. Of course there were days where I just needed to focus on myself (which trust me, is totally fine too), but every day that I spent with a friend was one that made me happy.
Whether you are still close with those school friends, have a really small group of people you trust, or have many new friends that you know and love, make sure that they know how much you appreciate them being in your life.