DIY LIFESTYLE

My First Time: Focusing on Friendships

April has been one of my favourite months so far this year – probably because it’s one of the months where I have been the most successful when accomplishing my monthly goals. My goal for April was a simple one, but one I knew that would make me very happy. My goal this past month was to focus on my friendships.

When you’re younger, your friends are the people you see everyday at school or during afterschool activities. Sure, you can meet people in other places, but you mostly stick to this group. You may not have much in common other than that math teacher that you both dislike or that play in drama class you both were in, but these small things and daily occurrences somehow bond you together.

The weird part about friends is that, as adults, you have to try a lot harder when it comes to keeping them in your life. Now that you don’t have school as a bond, you start to move onto other things that you like. You may start taking language classes, have a full-time career, or really enjoy your alone time. The bonds you’ve formed with people you’ve always knew sometimes just dissipates. You don’t mean it to, but it happens.

Even though I may not still be super close with all of the people I used to call friends, I wanted to still focus on the people in my life that really mattered to me. After all, my friends really make me genuinely happy and I wanted to focus some time on them.

So, every day this month, I tried my best to fuel the relationships that I had with the people I enjoy having in my life. I made dates to just grab coffee and chat, we planned days full of activities where we could gather content together and I tried to be there for everyone that needed me. Even if a friend was far away or we didn’t hang out as often, a simple text went a long way to reach out to the people that I missed. As much as this may sound like a chore to some people, it genuinely made me feel so full of love. Of course there were days where I just needed to focus on myself (which trust me, is totally fine too), but every day that I spent with a friend was one that made me happy.

Whether you are still close with those school friends, have a really small group of people you trust, or have many new friends that you know and love, make sure that they know how much you appreciate them being in your life.

With love,

36 Comments

  1. What a beautiful post, girl, that’s such a great goal to set for oneself, especially in such a fast paced and stressful time we live in, it can be so easy to let these moments fall to the waste side. Your friends are truly lucky to have someone like you in their lives, who is striving to make a conscious decision to spend time with them and make them all feel relevant! Thanks for sharing and I hope you have a great week ahead!

    XO,

    Jalisa
    http://www.thestylecontour.com

    1. Awe thank you so much for taking a read and sharing your thoughts! And you are so sweet!! Hope you have an amazing week ahead of you as well 🙂

      xo,

      H

  2. I think this is wonderful! You’re right, when you’re not bonded by school (gosh that was years ago for me!) or other activities, it’s often hard to be in the same place with your friends, so it takes a lot of effort. I don’t really have a lot of friends myself as I’m not hugely social, so I admire you for this!

    Raindrops of Sapphire

  3. GURL, this is so true. Finding the time for ALL the friends (even when the circle is small) can be a STRUGGLE. Between conflicting work schedules, gym time, dinner times, family time and simply alone time, fitting in a dinner, lunch or day with a friend can be difficult but important to do! I too have been trying to catch a coffee here and there in the mornings just for a catch up, and I love it! I know for myself, I have become an old lady at heart. I enjoy coming home right after work to my nice warm living room, that spot on the couch that has molded to my body perfectly, and going to sleep at an extremely reasonable time. You hit it right on the head by saying that the bonds you form with people sometimes dissipates although you don’t mean it to. The best friends will understand and can pick up exactly where you left off with little to no effort. I’m going to try and make more time for my friends this spring/summer as well. Great post!

    1. Right?! It’s so difficult these days to prioritize friendships, but it’s so important to!

      xo,

      H

  4. I LOVE YOU! And I love that you focused on friendship for the month of April. I agree, it’s definitely harder to make new friends as an adult and to find people that you mesh well with as well as have things in common. I’m so lucky for all the friendships I’ve made through social media, especially you! Thank you for being such a good friend to me. Can’t wait for more laughs and coffee dates! OH.. and food.

    xx
    Sabrina
    http://mymiaou.com

  5. Such a nice message, I’m happy I still communicate with a lot of friends from uni and my old work colleagues. It would be better to see them in person but social media is there when they are far away. Your post has inspired me a lot to maintain these old friendships. Thanks girl!

    http://www.busyandfab.com

  6. What a beautiful way to spend your month! It’s so important to fuel the relationships in your life that are valuable. I definitely make a point to do this especially with the ladies that have always been there for me <3 You all look so great!

    xoxo
    Rina Samantha
    http://www.andshedressed.com

    1. Totally agree with everything you said and so proud of you that you’e working on it as well!

      xo,

      H

  7. What a beautiful goal. Friends mean the world to me, and I generally work very hard to keep them in my life. I have friends that I’ve known since I was a baby, or a toddler, some I’ve known since I was 12, others only in high school– but I’ve worked hard over the years to keep them, and grow with them, and eventually, after so many years, each of us has just evolved together. We’ve all changed so much and gone through so many phases, that it really is no longer our actions that bond us, but our essences. I absolutely loved this post. <3

    http://cynicalduchess.com

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